So, I have to say that I love that Sheldon Cooper has a girlfriend. It may be sexless, and kinda weird, but it's theirs, and it's working for them.
Granted, they're make believe characters, but I don't care. As the mother of kids on the spectrum, it makes me happy. Because let's be honest, Sheldon's an Aspie, right?
It's never stated outright, but it doesn't have to be. He's clearly an Aspie, and more power to the writers for never deciding that he had to be something else.
The show Parenthood has tried to be really educational about Asperger's, but I have to say, I have some issues with the way it's been portrayed.
It bothers me that Max (an adolescent boy) never seems to learn new skills that help him navigate his world more easily. Lots of kids with Spectrum issues, learn things that make it easier for them.
And what the hell with his mother? Christina is freaking Judgy McJudgerson about anyone who is different. She doesn't like the new girl at her son's school because she doesn't care much about being polite, and has no desire to conform.
But in a school that Christina supposedly created for kids like her son, you'd think she would expect kids who say exactly what they think without a filter. That's a pretty common theme among spectrum kids. And while this girl isn't supposed to be an Aspie, she certainly isn't a Normie, either.
More than that, though, I'm bothered by how Christina has dealt with the fact that her son has a crush on the New Girl. She decides that they need to "temper his enthusiasm".
Let me be clear, I'm a big believer that as a parent, our job is not to temper their enthusiasm, especially when it comes to relationships. Best case scenario, you're right, and they do get hurt.
Congratulations. I'll bet you feel just amazing about being right. Take a moment to enjoy that your child is sad, and that means you're right.
Seems kinda crappy, doesn't it? I think so too.
You can't keep them from getting hurt. You can't. That's life. All you will do is undermine their self-confidence when you try. And for what?
On the show, the character tries to explain to her son that the girl might not like him back. And to her husband she expresses an unwillingness to believe that the girl even could like her son.
That really really bothered me.
She is supposed to be this super-accepting and amazing mom who is going out of her way to change the world for her child. But she doesn't think a girl could like him? Are you kidding me?
My kids run the gamut of abilities, strengths, and interests. I believe each of them can be loved. I mean I love them. Why wouldn't someone else?
But at the end of the day, whether someone likes my kid or not, my children should always know that I think they're likable and lovable, that I'm on their side, and that when their hearts are broken, I've got the glue.
Of course it's well hidden and out of reach, because it is amazing what kids can do with glue when your back is turned.
But I have it!
And that's my job. I'm the fixer.Or at the very least, I'm the really good listener who can buy ice cream.
Besides, if Sheldon Cooper can have a girlfriend, there is hope for everyone.
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