You have no idea how badly I want to open up this blog post with a line about getting money for the rent. And, no, I couldn't come up with anything more clever than that. What can I say? It was a really long day.
There are a lot of things that making my job as Mom harder. But I don't feel like taking an entire blog post to bitch about how hard things are. It's November. Thanksgiving month. I should be thinking about the things I'm grateful for. There are a lot of things I'm grateful for. And let's not pretend that there aren't 1000 other mom blogs out there sharing the woes of motherhood and doing it a hell of a lot better than I am.
But can I share something that's bugging me? After all, it's just us here, right? I'm sick of people telling me I'm a Super Mom. If I deny it (as I should), I sound like I can't take a compliment. But, to be honest, it's a bold-faced lie. Super Moms don't get overwhelmed by homeschooling and give it up. Super Moms bake cookies, always have the laundry done, have a clean house/kids/cats/whatever, don't lose their temper with their kids, have positive attitudes, and feed their babies only the best. Last week when I was sick, I served my kids poptarts for breakfast. They ate them. I called it good.
There's nothing "super" about me. But then, I think the real truth is that there is no Super Mom. There's only us real moms. And we're way better anyway.
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annette had a popsicle for dinner yesterday. you're doing fine in my book...
ReplyDeleteI don't think Supermoms actually exist. Except maybe Michelle Duggar in front of the cameras (if someone has 19 cats then they are an animal hoarder - WHY is she not considered a child hoarder)? I do "read" about these supermoms that have five kids of their own that adopt other children from third world countries or children with fatal birth defects. And I admire them fiercely. I work nights and I have three kids and I know I absolutely could not put another thing on my plate. Just babysitting a niece and nephew a couple hours a week feels like its pushing me to the edge of a nervous breakdown. I had an idea of what a "great" mom should be, and it was exactly as you said (clean house, never raising the voice, etc). But each time I added another child to the Clan that idea slipped further and further out of reality. Once in a while we do hear or read about Supermoms, but I like to think we are only getting a very small part of the big picture. ;-)
ReplyDeleteI'm right here with ya. This past year has been a fly-by-the-seat-of-my-mom-pants year for me. I, also, do not believe in the 'supermom'. That mom is pretty uncreative and lacks uniqueness. And I have to say that I don't think Michelle Duggar is a 'Supermom' on or off camera, although she is a good mom in her own place in the universe. And there is always a time and a place for poptarts and popsicles.
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